Big Ed's Place

In my last musing, “Look at Me”, I waxed rhapsodic about exhibitionistic women. I thought I’d expand that with a riff of lingerie.

Lingerie is special. It’s not underwear–functional and only as decorative as it takes to make the wearer feel non-dingy. Lingerie is designed to be seen. It’s designed to say “look at me” to those eyes so privileged to see it.

Of course, without the energy and sexual attitude, it’s just clothing. Madonna’s outerwear lingerie in the 80′s wasn’t sexy at all, and pretty much failed to provoke me. The shock value was about all it was worth. It could have been on a hanger for all the sexual energy it conveyed.

My college roommate, in fact, discovered this when he was out buying lingerie for his girlfriend once. The very attractive sales girl asked, in a bedroom voice, if he wanted to see what a teddy he was admiring would look like the night he gave it to his girlfriend. He swallowed hard, with questions about fidelity running through his head. Eventually, he slowly nodded, hoping no one would find out about the ‘show.’

Except the sales girl then wadded the teddy up and threw it on the floor. “There,” she said, “that’s how it’s going to look most of the night.”

He laughed and bought it anyway. The sexiness of the moment, after all, had been in the innuendo and not the fabric.

But, as I said, when the energy is brought together with lingerie, it can be magic. By being impractical and just for the eyes, lingerie calls attention to what is not seen, or what it frames. A wisp of transparent chemise hints maddenly at magic underneath. Garters and stockings frame a treasure that might be in full view–forcing the eye to the center.

That’s why they appear so often in my stories. A woman in thigh high stockings, with or without a garter belt, has made the decision “look at me”. She wants to be seen as sexy, in most cases, and that makes all the difference.

I, for one, love the result.

Tags: exhibitionist, lingerie, sexual philosophy

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