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Comment on Intimate friendships by Big Ed

Big Ed — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 05:01:28 +0000

I have some close emotionally intimate friends that I can discuss fears and insecurities with. I deliberately sought out a group of men who could share like I could, and it’s been very rewarding. There are many things that women have a harder time getting because it’s not part of their experience.

But you are on to something with the “next stage” after sex. I’ve gotten there with a handful of former lovers, to good results. However, it’s a bit harder to get to that stage without the sex, which is not a possibility now that I’m married and monogamous.

Thanks for the comment.

Comment on Intimate friendships by Michael West

Michael West — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:33:08 +0000

Hi Big Ed. I don’t think your recent nostalgia is because you’re getting old. You described much of my experiences back to my teens. I’ve long believed that sex is metaphorically just what it looks like physically, people naked together. Sex is no longer a part of our relationships, but both my very first girlfriend and my ex wife, are my best friends. I attribute that to the sex. It allowed us to have the intimacy in conversations that we might have held back. My male friends have never been as close, men have strict boundaries for discussing fears and insecurities. I’ve lost several friends because the friendship needed to progress into the sex stage, but could not. They believed that sex was the only next stage left. My relationships with my ex wife and ex girlfriend are still growing, so I know there are other ways to get there. I also have to admit that these women are unique, our friendships are more because of what they have given or tolerated than efforts on my own part. Nothing I can add, you covered this one throroughly. Good article.

Comment on Friends and Benefits by Intimate friendships | Big Ed's Place

Intimate friendships | Big Ed's Place — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:03:13 +0000

[...] some ways, that’s what happened with the friendship that was the inspiration behind Friends and Benefits. The actual relationship went differently than that in the story, but still ended with a dispute [...]

Comment on Chinese bureaucracy in the 1400′s and SOPA by Michael West

Michael West — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 09:21:35 +0000

Agreed, both counts. Sneakier next time, and maybe not worth fighting for. Look at all the freedoms we gave up to allow Homeland Security to protect us. If it hurts, if it is snarled for a time, then perhaps some of those with some power, (not the Disney’s, MGM’s, Random House) will feel backed into such a corner that they have to take a swing. Either way, it won’t be quick or pretty. My only fear, is that it slides in eventually, allowed as a greater good, like too many modern examples I could list: the freedoms we gave up to protect ourselves from terrorism; the illigality of a proven harmless drug which is the gateway to all other drugs; statuatory laws which define 14 year old men as predators and their seventeen year old victims as little girls who need to be protected by law. Those are extreme and unrelated examples, and perhaps not fair. And too, I agree that should this pass, it is quite possible that even those with a modicum of power will lose what little control they have. I do not support SOPA, do not really want that bill to pass. My only fear is that I will see again what I have seen hundreds of times in the past. Something sounds good on the surface, and eventually, in its softest, most insidious form, becomes more powerfully destructive than the original idea. I did a poor job, but I was mostly agreeing with your condemnation, as well as your warning to beware of the same idea next year, couched with more pleasant wording. But as we both said earlier, these arguments are probably moot, this law will not pass with its current wording. Even those who introduced the bill, have backpedaled to a great degree.

Comment on Chinese bureaucracy in the 1400′s and SOPA by Big Ed

Big Ed — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 04:34:56 +0000

I’m not sure I agree with you. If it passed, I think we’d be snarled for some time, because the rich can be very powerful in protecting their interests and abusing the hell out of things. I think the next pass will indeed be sneakier, but I hope that the internet companies like Facebook et al will not get boxed out by Hollywood et al the way they did this time.

Comment on Chinese bureaucracy in the 1400′s and SOPA by Michael West

Michael West — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 21:40:24 +0000

Hi Big Ed. You make excellent points, and I agree with almost all of them, which is why I would hope this law passes in its current form. It was put together too quickly, or at least too haphazardly, and if it fails, the next one will have a better spin, better and lengthier sell. Who could possibly object to protecting creative rights? I’ll use one of your examples to tell why I would want this to go through. Very few Americans supported the prohibition of demon alcohol, the main reason the gangsters were able to become so profitable so quickly. Only through enactment of that law was it demonstrated that alcohol itself was not the problem, and even if it were, legislation couldn’t stop it. After this shining example, I am still confused as to why prostitution and marijuana are both against the law. However, while there are a few rich pornographers, there are no conglomerate pimps, and that is part of the problem. With SOPA there are many powerful IP’s and others, who would have no choice but to challenge in court. Their loss of revenue would be too great otherwise. With a softened version of the bill, it might not be worth the fight. If it fails, as you and I expect, another will rear its head shortly, and that pit viper might not rattle so loudly.

Comment on Editing and Catching Up by Big Ed

Big Ed — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 18:40:30 +0000

Thanks.

I believe that it’s rude to make people wait unnecessarily, and as a writer, I hate waiting for editors. I figure I owe the people I edit for a similar courtesy.

Comment on Editing and Catching Up by Ms T.

Ms T. — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 13:47:44 +0000

Comfort to you and your family. I think it’s very kind of you to be concerned about the length of time the authors you’re editing for have to wait.

Kinky Kisses,

Ms T.

Comment on A Dirty Old Man’s Level’s of Illness by Big Ed

Big Ed — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 04:16:31 +0000

Thanks for the well wishes.

Comment on A Dirty Old Man’s Level’s of Illness by Michael West

Michael West — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 18:41:08 +0000

I’ve been at number 6 before, and any of those higher than 3 is not good at all. I just wanted to say that I hope you’re feeling better soon, if you’re not already, Big Ed.