Big Ed's PlaceMarried in the sex industry
Posted in General Musings on August 3rd, 2011 by Big Ed – Be the first to commentRecently, I downloaded a girl-girl video from Joymii.com and was surprised to realize that one of the women (Simona) was wearing a ring on her left hand ring finger. The simple band of gold wasn’t necessarily a wedding ring, particularly due to the lack of diamonds that would be almost required in the USA. However, it was stylish and since Simona is Czech, who knows?
It was unusual to see the ring, because porn typically removes all hints of relationships outside the ones on the screen. It doesn’t want to disrupt the fantasy that “I could be there doing that with her” and a reminder of another relationship certainly takes one out of that fantasy a bit. The obvious exception is porn aimed at cheating or cuckolding or wives out of control, but those fantasies are a separate post.
However, if one steps back, it’s not hard to realize that it’s extremely unlikely that all the actors in porn are unattached. I’m sure the serious relationships and marriages are pretty close to what’s normal for the age demographic. Lots of singles and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships when the actors are in their early twenties, with more serious relationships and marriages as they move into their thirties. Of course, porn does tend to be dominated by the young. A porn producer/director I met once lamented that his was the only industry in which everyone was twenty forever. People either got out and moved on, or started faking their age to be younger.
So while there are likely to be a good number of attached porn stars, the industry conspires to hide that detail of their lives.
I do know second-hand of two married women who worked in brothels in Nevada. Both of their husbands knew of their work and one even patronized other courtesans. It was basically an open marriage with money involved. I also met a Nevada courtesan who had a boyfriend while she worked. He’d been a client and so knew about her job, but I never found out how that worked long term. Strippers often have trouble with boyfriends long term when either the guy gets jealous or, often, she wakes up and realizes he’s sponging off of her. It takes more than the usual maturity to accept one’s significant other being sexual with other people night after night.
So I was actually surprised at my own surprise upon seeing the ring. Kind of “Oh! Well, why not?” Which kind of reflects on how well the sex industry sells the fantasy that the performers are unattached and available.