With the turn of the calendar, we’re in the season of retrospectives and resolutions for the future. My daily life is still oriented with very short term deadlines, which makes resolutions a bit tricky. It’s hard to say, “this is what I want to do for the year” when I can barely see past the end of the week. Similarly, it’s hard to look back at the past year with any objectivity when near term events have been rather stressful. I’m happy to say, “Good Riddance” to 2010, except it’d be more accurate to say, “Good Riddance to December 2010” because, when I have a chance to really relax, I may discover the other months weren’t that bad.
This is in part because I realize how malleable memory really is. False memories are surprisingly easy to imprint, as is the tendency for the mind to fill in details inaccurately. We remember things that have strong emotional content and I’ve realized that sometimes the memories change when the emotions do.
For example, I can remember fights with my college girlfriend, despite it being nearly 20 years since the fight in question. However, the distance of time has mellowed the import of those fights and so the details of them have changed. They’re memories I’ve revisited several times, but over time I’ve remembered less and less what she said, and more what I said. Am I remembering correctly? I like to think so, because those memories of my younger self aren’t flattering, and why alter them to make me look bad? But of course, I have no way of knowing. After all, if I asked her, there’s no way to tell if it’s her memory or my memory that’s at fault.
Similarly, and more on-topic for this site, I remember sexual encounters that I thought were the most-incredible-thing-ever at the time, and even for some time after. But years later, they’ve lost their thrill for one reason or another. It’s usually not so much me having more experience or being jaded, as having a different perspective. For example, now when I recall the face of one past partner, I see different emotions in her expression. I don’t think she was as crazy about the sex that time as I had thought.
So… what do I remember about writing in 2010? Not a lot, I admit. I remember spending most of the year on Deep Dish, getting started on Unmasked, and also TMI, but those are all relatively ‘fresh’ in that they’re still in my queue in one form or another. Fortunately, I don’t have to actually remember what I did–because I have notes in the form of musing posts over the past year.
I released Babe in the Night, though it had been written in 2009. I also wrote and released In the Style of Rodin, and Love’s Labor Found in 2010. I wrote and sold Irie No Kaubutsu. Throw in the Deep Dish script and TMI, and that’s five stories completed, for about 50,000 words total. That’s a lot more than I remembered or thought. I just kept plugging away…
So maybe the memories aren’t all that important. Not when I have my words here to provide a reality check of my brain.